The decision to take an anger management class can be difficult. The toughest part for most people is accepting or taking responsibility for ones own behavior. Most of us tend to blame others for our own bad behavior or even for our own emotional experiences. The fact is, others don’t “make” us do or say or feel anything. These are choices we make and ultimately have to live with. The first step to getting help is recognizing that we are not perfect and that our anger is affecting those around us in a negative way.
The second step is to better understand how to know if one even has an “anger management” problem. Anger is a problem when it interferes too frequently and negatively impacts our social, occupational or educational functioning. It is also a problem when it lasts too long or is simply so frequent that it shadows how we feel.
The third step is to rule out any medical, alcohol or drug related problems which may be the root cause of ones anger. Some people say they are perfectly fine, but their anger gets them into trouble when they drink. They then blame their bad behavior as the primary problem, when in fact it is likely the alcohol that is the problem to address first and foremost.
Uncontrolled anger can have disastrous affects on relationships. In fact, most of our anger management students say that their anger has affected the most important relationships in their lives. Anger tends to erode and destroy what we treasure most, our interpersonal ties with loved ones, such as a spouse, girl/boyfriend, co-worker, friend, or family member. Anger outbursts over time will damage those relationships sometimes to the point of no return.
Why let this happen? Taking an anger management class could be one of the best investments of your life. Anger management classes will teach skills in improving relationships in a variety of ways. You will learn better communication skills, empathy, stress management, improving judgment and impulse control, forgiveness, improving self-talk and much more. Anger management classes are not punitive but rather skill building. Our participants range from corporate executives, business professionals, home makers, students, young, old, as well as wealthy or not so wealthy. Why such a range of demographics? Anger does not discriminate! Everyone gets anger, but the choice in how we behave is the determining factor in the outcome.
Take an anger management class or participating in one on one anger management coaching is an excellent way to learn and improve ones skills for better anger management. Why wait until it’s too late. Look into finding a quality provider such as our organization, AJ Novick Group, Inc.
Ari Novick, Ph.D.
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