"Learning to adjust expectations is often tricky to do because different people have different ideas of this. One way to do it is to think about it when you are calm and cool. Things that seemed "reasonable" when you were worked up often seem rediculous and petty when you are relaxed and calm. Make sure that you make your important decisions when you are not in an escalated state of anger or stress.
Another way to do it is to compare someone's behavior with other people in that situation or age group. For instance, we have different expectations for teens and adults, for single people and married people, for normal cercumstances and difficult ones.
If you are still not sure if your expectation is reasonable, try asking peers or friends to give you honest feedback. Good friends will tell you the truth and help you adjust those expecations in line with common standards in your social group or community."--Published in our book, Anger Managment for the Twenty-first Century.
Ari Novick, M.A.
About Me
- Ari Novick, Ph.D.
- Laguna Beach, CA, United States
- Dr. Novick started the AJ Novick Group, Inc in 2003. Services include anger management, parenting, alcohol and drug education, theft and shoplifting classes, gambling addiction, and more. Dr. Novick has made numerous presentations on the subjects of anger management, stress management and empathy. He has been a consultant for both Discovery Channel and Fox Television. Dr. Novick is also a corporate consultant and conducts workshops and seminars for corporations in both the public and private sectors.
