We all come to make decisions in different ways. There are those that are quick to make judgments. There are others who are black/white thinkers and see things as two distinct and polar extremes. Then there are perfectionists, who mourn the loss of anything that happens in their world that doesn't align with their idea of perfectionism. Of course, we can't forget those individuals who "should" all over people, as in "you should do this, you shouldn't do that".
Some of the biggest mistakes in communication are made by simply using absolutist vocabulary such as words like: most, least or just; all, every or none; best, worst; always, forever, never.
Rather than using words that create defensiveness in another because they create the absolute situation. Better word choices might include: some, may, might, seems, can, could, probably, almost.
Communication is probably one of the most difficult challenges in the human existence. It is one of the few things in life that is totally necessary in order to develop, sustain and maintain a relationship.
Individuals who are challenged to manage their anger often describe their communication as problematic and if they don't, it is easily identified as such by a qualified professional. It is nearly impossible to unlearn a problematic communication style; however, they can certainly learn a new approach to supersede an existing way that caused problems.
Where does one learn better communication? Contrary to popular belief, anger management can be learned by taking an anger management class. These classes can be taken online or in person, depending on what your preference may be. Get out of the nightmare of being an absolutist! Get help for anger management and see what it's like to live a life where communication comes so much easier.